Husband has endured insults from his wife for many years

DEAR ABBY: I'm a 50-year-old man, married for 17 years with two kids. I have a mostly good marriage, but I have been noticing things that bother me. Almost daily, my wife seems to insult me or make a sarcastic comment.

I work long hours because of the nature of my job, which my wife claims I am a slave to. Whenever I get a raise, my wife says, "Is that all?" She never seems happy with what I make. We're in debt, but she works part time at what she calls a "princess job" that pays well per hour, but she works only three days a week. Sometimes, however, she doesn't work for months.

My wife seems uninterested in anything I try to tell her that isn't about her.